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March 30, 2012

Proud Momma

Filed under: Personal thoughts — sqlpam @ 1:14 am

Today was a rough day and very strange – full of lots of twists. I did not get more than a couple of hours sleep last night while staying at my mother’s house. No reason I could put my finger on – sleep was just elusive. So the morning was not welcome. I was at Mom’s to drive her to a dental appointment where she was to have some oral surgery. I live 2 hours away and somehow – I am the only one able to reliably drive her to these things. Her friends her age scare her – so she looks elsewhere – which means me. I am grateful to have my Mom. I lost Dad back in ’94 – so I smile and thank the Lord I have her in my life.

We ate, got ready and drive over almost an hour’s drive. I hoped I might sleep in the foyer while she had her procedure – but no – everyone in the room had out their phones and were doing something – all with touch noise confirmations going. So there were clicks from one of the phones, dings from another and some strange hiss from the third. In the meantime my stomach was telling me it was not happy with the recent drug overdoses of antibiotics for the ear/nose/throat infection I was trying to get over.

They all got quiet and I fell asleep only to be wakened by the dentist himself. He introduced himself and I expected an update on my mother’s surgery. She was fine but this was a different visit – he wanted to tell me how much my mother reminded him of his mother who he lost in 2001. He brought photos and shared how he felt closer to Mom than most of his patients due the resemblance. I let him know that I knew I was lucky to have her and thanked him for taking special care of Mom. I later found he told the staff I was his “other” sister. Strange encounter – but not unwelcome.

When Mom was at checkout – I found my stomach was not going to stay quiet and ended up sick in the ladies room. I did feel better afterward in some ways – but very empty. Things were not settled enough to feel comfortable eating enough to feel the void.

After several stops on the way home – I crashed. I really needed to get home to my family. Today was my son’s Ryan’s 16th birthday. A big milestone for a youth and I was missing it. If I attempted to drive home at this point – I would never make it – not how I wanted him thinking of his Sweet 16. So I laid down and took a nap after calling and letting everyone know where I was. That call let me know that my loving husband now had the ear/nose/throat infection I was trying to kick and he was not happy about it.

I slept and was woke up by Mom’s new cat – Boots. I got things packed and loaded into the car and headed home. I got home around 8:45 and loaded my son in the car for his birthday dinner – better late than never. He chose Macaroni Grill – the same place for the last 3-4 years. Over dinner I got a question that made me warm and proud. “Mom can you teach me SQL so I can better track the data for my Yugioh cards?” My kid has been paying attention. He saw me prepping for my recent presentation “Taking the scary out of Monster Reports” and liked what I was able to do with the data. Now he wants to do the same types of things.

All the crappy parts of the day disappeared. It was getting played forward to me. He watched me take care of my Mom – always telling him that I have to take care of her while I have her. He was now saying he wanted more time – close time with me. So I gave him a run down of SQL over pasta. We’ll see how serious he is – but it stills feels wonderful knowing he has an interest.




  1. SQL and Pasta sounds like a good combination. Imagine he’s asked in a job interview “how did you start in SQL databases”; he would answer, “oh, when I was 16, I started learning SQL so I can better track data for my Yugioh cards.” Bam! How impressive that would be! That speaks volume of his character. “Oh, by the way, my mom was a SQL Server Expert and we would talk a lot about SQL over pasta.” “OK, you’re hired!”

    Comment by Marlon Ribunal — March 30, 2012 @ 1:47 am | Reply

    • I got into programming as a temporary thing over 30 years ago. I had wanted to go into nursing – I figured technology would pay well enough to get me through school for nursing. Ryan is saying this will be a temporary means to his career in music or some other performing arts. I just smile like my dad did. He was an FE Specialist for IBM.

      Comment by sqlpam — March 30, 2012 @ 8:59 am | Reply

  2. As Andy Leonard says (as do many others I’m sure) – Everyone is an accidental DBA…(even if it is just to keep track of their Yugioh cards {-:)

    Great story!

    Comment by Andy Galbraith (@DBA_ANDY) — March 30, 2012 @ 9:21 am | Reply

  3. I know the feeling. 🙂 I’m happy for you!

    Comment by Stacia Misner — April 4, 2012 @ 10:04 am | Reply

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